Last week, I told my symptoms — insomnia, a creepy-crawling feeling on my skin, waking up sweaty in the middle of the night, a period that’s been missing for three months — to a nurse/midwife. She concluded that it was menopause. I had been waiting for that news since 1972. If I hadn’t been tired and suffering from a cold, I would done cartwheels out of the clinic.
Ahh. . .the news every childfree woman wants to hear. The door is permanently closed to parenthood, and hopefully, there will be an end to annoying questions from others concerning having kids. It’s the pleasure of knowing that one day, worrying about birth control won’t be an issue. One day, I will no longer have to spend money on tampons and sanitary napkins. It’s all good.
Chelsea Handler made fun of the the Duggars on her show recently. Michelle and Jim Bob Duggar made the cover of People magazine, along with their 19th kid, who was born with complications. I never watch the reality TV show they have; there’s nothing fascinating about people who have hordes of kids. Plenty of people do. Why do some families deserve to get the face time on camera over others?
I signed up for a free People subscription, and sure enough, the first issue I received was the one with the Duggars on the cover. Medical experts are quoted saying they think the couple has too many kids, and the lack of emotional and financial resources available to give to so many children. Michelle Duggar had been diagnosed with preeclampsia (pregnancy-induced hypertension) before the latest kid was born prematurely. Michelle is 43 years old. If she and her husband insist to continue having more kids, because they believe all children are gifts of God, then she’s going to be in for some bad medical problems.
Doctors have stated for years that there are risks for women having kids after age 35, but a lot of people still don’t believe it. I learned that having more than four kids, regardless of how old the mother is, causes health problems. The older siblings, who often find themselves helping to care for younger siblings, suffer emotional problems. There is a reason why some women — myself included — who were put in the position of playing “second mama” while they were growing up, don’t have children. We’ve already done the motherhood thing. We don’t want to play mama again as adults.
I shook my head as I read the article. Jim Bob Duggar stated, “All of our children are thankful to be here.” Uh, they didn’t ask for or had a say so in being born, anymore than I or ol’ Jim Bob and Michelle did. I wonder if he really asked the kids how they felt, or did he just assume that.
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